Wee, wee, wee all the way home - to Derry

The Derryisms were coming thick and fast on our wee trip home this past week. Beloved Aspie now has his own ‘traditions’ for a visit to the North. The first is the obligatory pint of Guinness, something he never does in England. Only problem is he downed it like it’s lemonade then got the giggles and told me he couldn’t now choose any food off the menu because his head was spinny. 

At Granny’s next afternoon he got the giggles again. He was trying not to be noticed, but I asked him outright what was he laughing about . “Soop,” he spluttered between laughs, “Soop.” It was Granny’s accent that got him going – we were discussing winter recipes for soup. From then on he was on a mission to pick up all the Derry peculiarities. And I became obsessed with the word ‘wee’. 

Obviously, it’s a word I’ve used all my life (mostly meaning small… oh that wee thing; or young…that wee fella; or short…I’ll just be a wee minute).  However, it seems to have developed a new place in Customer Service. Shop assistants all over town were saying things like, “Is it just that wee one for you, now?” as I hand over my one item to purchase. “Just pop your wee card in there for me,” as I get handed the card reader. “And there’s your wee receipt, now.” I had three ‘wees’ in one transaction alone!

On Customer Service, I have to say that Derry is in a league of its own. After our other ‘tradition’ of walking the Walls, we decided to visit the Guildhall which is now open to the public. It holds a special place in my heart as it boasts a beautiful wooden stage in a stunning stained glass-windowed hall, the first stage on which I ever performed, at the age of 7. Well, me and hundreds of thousands of other youngsters. The annual Féis was held in that hall and schoolchildren took their turns delivering songs in Gaelic, poems, playing the fiddle, playing with the brass band and of course, Irish Dancing. It was a spectacle and I loved it.  On this first visit in many years, the staff were so warm and welcoming, asking after my memories of the place, and a lovely man upstairs told us all the stories behind the stained glass windows. A quick jaunt through Derry’s dramatic history.

The hubs and I had a dinner out together on the last night and the bar staff were charming and adorable. I nearly took a photo until I realised it could be mistaken for a line-up of serial killers! They all looked an awful lot like Jamie Dornan in The Fall!

Our final morning brought another tradition: tea and buns. The buns have to be bought at the local bakery, the bigger the selection the better. I’m not talking cupcakes or pastries, here, I’m talking buns. And of course, they all have their own names, too. There was a gravy ring, a German bun, a cookie bun, a Dutch bun and a cream finger to name a few. These translate into a ring doughnut, a Paris bun, a sweet bap with cream in it (can’t think of an English version), a sort of Danish turnover and a long doughnut filled with cream. Oh, the joy of familiar flavours. Funny how things can taste so different from one small country to another.

So, that’s another wee Irish adventure done for now. Beloved Aspie said there was only one problem. It was over too soon and if he had Q’s powers (from Star Trek) he could hop back to England, jiggle with some occurrence there, then hop back and have longer to stay…no, I have no idea either.

I shot Cromwell!

This time last week I was one show down on a six show bonanza as part of Bridgwater Arts Centre’s 70^th anniversary celebrations. We were putting on a promenade show throughout the centre telling tales of the history of the place and the street with drama, comedy, ghosts and music.

I was cast as Christabella Wyndham, who I knew nothing of, except that in her lines, she abuses Cromwell from the battlements of the then Bridgwater Castle and shoots him. Yes, please.

Coming from Derry, the name Cromwell is virtually a curse. We were always told that he was the cause of the Derry/Londonderry debate as he ‘gave’ Derry to the people of London as a gift after the terrible conquest. I can find no historical back-up to that story. He also became part of our family ‘mythology’.  The story goes that my mother (who, unlike her loud and forthright daughter is actually sweet, demure and polite) was visiting her sister in London and they were taking in the sights. But when Mum took in the triumphant Cromwell on his horse outside Parliament, apparently she spat at him!

I told the scriptwriters, Beth Webb and Chloe Lees that I’d be thrilled to take the story one step further and shoot him instead. Enjoying that I relished my opportunity to unleash my vitriol, they added more lines and more curses (thanks to the Shakespearian Book of Insults). I can’t tell you how much I enjoyed calling Cromwell a plume-plucked, dog-hearted, bum bailey…though we were slightly concerned about the meaning until we discovered it was to do with bailiffs, honest.

As I was thinking about all this, I had the slap in the face moment when I ‘remembered/realised’ that my son is called Oliver. I only ever think of Cromwell by surname, and call my son all variations of his name so I don’t put the two together. Whoops! And I recalled my mother’s shock when I said my infant would be called Oliver all those years ago. “After Cromwell?” she shrieked down the phone. Quick thinking and a helpful Catholic education saved the day, “No, Plunkett, Oliver Plunkett”. A saint conveniently buried in Ireland.

Anyway, turns out Christabella was a piece of work, she flashed her breasts at Cromwell first (to distract or insult, I cannot tell) but when she fired, she missed him and killed his sergeant instead. How might she have changed the course of history from little Bridgwater had she been a better shot?
Ah, well, the shows are now over and my heart is quiet having pacified my ancient Irish psyche, for now…

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Pokémon Go and Aspie wellbeing

Pokémon GO! Love it or hate it, it certainly has Aspies on the move and talking to one another and that can only be a good thing, right?

I ignored Beloved Aspie when he uttered the word Pokémon after many years (during which he had matured through Dr Who and Star Trek and Marvel and DC Superheroes). I dismissed it as a passing notion, maybe he’d seen an article somewhere, and anyway, it’s for kids – he won’t go down that road again.

Two weeks later we have time travelled back some seventeen years when Pikachu made his (her?) first appearance in our lives – in the shape of a small rubberised toy, a lunch box, a school rucksack, bedlinen…back then it was something fun he could safely talk to other kids about in school.

When he hit his teenage years and Asperger’s pulled him under, Pokémon became a conversation between me and him. I learned their various tricks and powers whilst Gameboy became the only source of entertainment and protection from the outside world. Pokémon even had a whole scene to themselves in the first play I wrote and performed. (From Within)

At 27, Beloved Aspie is a charming, eloquent, socially engaged young man, working on his independence skills while living at home. So it was with a little surprise that I heard him announce one afternoon last week, “I’m just popping out.” I asked if he was going to chat to our neighbour. “No, there’s a Pokémon up the road. I have my keys and I will observe my road safety.” And he was gone.

The other day I invited him to join me for a walk, it was a half-hearted offer, he usually says no. His eyes lit up  -“Yes.” Apparently these Pokémon are everywhere! He got some fresh air and exercise – I got a laugh.

The weekend was the same with him joining the Hubs and I for a day out. On the way home he announces in the car, “That was a great day.” Was it the sunshine, the Oreo marshmallows, the pizza, the new belt he needed, our fabulous company?

Of course not: it was the woman he chatted to while catching Horsea where she was sitting and the young men he chatted to about their quests in the shopping village, and the third Eevee he caught.

Frankly, it’s all good in my eyes – thank you Pokémon Go for socialising our Aspies, and all the other socially shy or awkward teens who are coming out to play, too.